Ok, those who have me on facebook or know me off of here know i tend to be a jealous type of person. I used to be really really jealous, like reading my wifes txts, looking at phone records, etc. Well i was fine for awhile and then i got this job where i have been working away from home and i have started to get more and more jealous for no reason. Like i hate to be away from the mrs to begin with, but now in my head i think she is doing something behind my back. I know she isnt, but....i dont know how to describe it. My questions is, how do you guys be NOT jealous? And are your girls allowed to have guy friends?

My wife lets me hang out with girls and what not I feel i should only return the favor....

well, other than the fact that i think asking a bunch of nerds about relationship advice is kinda...i dunno...counterproductive, i think that the basis of a good relationship is trust. she trusts you, you should attempt to trust her.

not that i have any experience, but ill admit, when im with a girl, i get really jealous when she starts talking to another guy. its one of those things that i have to work on, especially if we're not dating. your case is a bit different, but it all comes down to trusting that she'll do the right thing.

sascha you are no help...lol

buddy of mine said "if she is going to cheat, she will, nothing you do will stop her so why worry"

You fail sascha, mainly cause your wet behind the ears but its all kool. Mike, I have some stuff to say on this subject but not the time right now. I will get back here later. Does she have a past of cheating on old boyfriends?

nope

fine, see if i ever give you guys any more help in the future

I wouldn't worry about it, Mike. Youve been together a good long while, and seem to have a structured relationship. I think the biggest challenge is that you've been working from home so long that now that you don't see her constantly you feel as if you can't keep tabs on what's going on in her life. Just make a point of spending time with her and talk about it with her and things will work themselves out.

To be fair, I'm also not really the jealous type (except when Jess makes time to hang out with her ex... I kind of hate that dirtbag... but that's only because I know why they broke up..). Trust me, getting out and about with other people from time to time does wonders for the relationship. Jess and I just went through a rough patch because we've spent too much time together when living in TO. Basically what I'm saying is, when she's gone, have a beer and chill out with friends.

Well put Derek.

STFU Sascha... lol

Mike, Derek put it rather well, & about the only thing I can think of to add is dont bottle it up. It will eat at you to the point of you getting pissed for no good reason.

well mike, at least it shows you really love her. you definitely have that going. but it sounds to like you two need to sit down and talk about it. you clearly have some trust issues, and you can't keep it all bottled up, it'll lead to you going crazy and eventually straining the relationship thin. so you do need to talk with her. it may be a tough conversation, but it seems you love her enough that it will be worth it to suffer through a toughy.